• Feeling lost, not knowing where to turn, searching aimlessly
• Feeling disconnected, confused, discounted, one feels pushed around, not in control of one’s own direction
• Receiving double messages but somehow unable or fearful to ask for clarification or asking for clarification but not getting it
• To discover that one was mistaken in one’s evaluation of where one stood or what it was all about
• Feeling totally unprepared for a broken promise or unfulfilled expectation,     the shattering of an important “dream” & a feeling of emptiness
• Where one assumed goodwill, ill will seems to prevail
• A strong wish to get away, yet feeling unable to move, as if frozen, and not able to attack the problem
• Nagging feeling that something is wrong & feeling that one’s subjective world has become chaotic 

Adapted from Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans & reprinted by the permission of Putnam Publishing Group, NY from Stop! You’re Driving Me Crazy by Dr George R. Bach and Ronald M. Deutsch, copyright 1980 by Dr George R. Bach and Ronald M. Deutsch